Do Gay guys know the meaning of Intimacy?

Published on June 3, 2005 By Phoenixboi In Misc

I've been single now for almost four years.

During this time I have "seen" a few guys and explored meeting a few guys from chatting with them on the net.

The sad thing is that most (not all) seem to only want to meet up for sex.

Sex in the gay world seems very easy to find. What I am after though is intimacy.

Does this exist in gay culture?

If it does .. please lead me in the right direction.

Comments (Page 1)

aeryck

on Jun 03, 2005

Actually it is a kick you get above the neckline, moonlight.

Phoenixboi

on Jun 03, 2005

Tell me about it LW! .. so honey .. where is that in the gay world??

Im yet to find it.

Phoenixboi

on Jun 03, 2005

above the neckline.

? im looking for the heart.

aeryck

on Jun 03, 2005

Where do you think the heart is?

Phoenixboi

on Jun 03, 2005

above the waist not the neck.. its in the middle

aeryck

on Jun 03, 2005

That is a pump, it has no feelings, that your mind does not actually put there. I have a friend who is a quadraplegic, perhaps you would like to get intimate with him. [order a copy of his free cd: He is there]

dharmagrl

on Jun 03, 2005

P: I'm not gay, so I can't answer. You, however, are, so you're more informed about the subject than I...so, you tell me. DO gay dudes know the meaning of intimacy?

Trolling for sex on the internet isn't limited to the homosexual community either; there are tons of sites dedicated to the same thing for straight people. I think that the problem you're having might be because of where you're looking at...have you thought about searching for people by interest rather than sexual orientation alone? Or, perhaps you chould search by sexual orientation AND interest.

Good luck finding your love!

aeryck

on Jun 03, 2005

I agree with Dharma, especially the part ' by interest rather than sexual orientation ' - you need to get your head out of the pump. Take care. .A.

foreverserenity

on Jun 03, 2005

That's an interesting question Phoenix but as Dharma said, since I'm not gay, I can't answer that question for you. I could ask my friend who is gay though -mmm, that would be an interesting question to ask him.

Speaking from a heterosexual point of view though that question could also be asked of anyone in any relationship. Not everyone knows the meaning of intimacy. They figure it with sex, i.e., being physical, nothing else.

Some men do not know anything about intimacy, they're totally clueless on that aspect too.

Just keep on being optimistic Phoenix, someday your prince will come!

dharmagrl

on Jun 03, 2005

I can ask my friend Jason if he finds the same thing if you like...that might be an interesting conversation1

stutefish

on Jun 03, 2005

Seriously, it's been my experience that women tend to be better at the whole "intimacy" thing than men do. I get the distinct impression, both from history and my own personal life experiences, that one vital role women play in society is to "civilize" the men they interact with.

I know this makes me sound horribly bigoted and sexist. No matter how I sound, though, I assure that I am not. It's obvious that women differ from men in many profound ways--physically, biochemically, emotionally, probably spiritually, too. There seems to be a certain "complementarity" between the two genders, that contributes to the fulfilment of heterosexual relatiionships at all levels. Whether or not homosexual relationships are able to replace this inter-gender complementarity with something equally healthy and successful, I don't know.

There's a lot of anecdotal evidence to support such a claim, but there's also a lot of statistical evidence to refute it, I think.

Anyway, phoenixboi, I wish you success in every good thing you set out to do. Certainly, intimate and fulfilling gay relationships are possible. You deserve nothing less, and I hope you get one.

foreverserenity

on Jun 03, 2005

Stutefish, quite an insightful response you gave. I just tried to give you an insigtful for that comment but my computer is acting....real......s...l..o...ww! Anyway, good response!

joeKnowledge

on Jun 03, 2005

... yeah just a little... (refering to aeryk giving relationship advice to a homosexual).

Then again, Jesus seemed to talk to everybody, so I would assume it is ok for someone who knows of Jesus and believes in God would too. Something about loving everyone and not judging them...

joeKnowledge

on Jun 03, 2005

back to the thread

little_whip, post 14 sounds like a commercial for eHormany.com lol

'eHormany matches you up with people like you and points on laughter blah blah yada yada..."

It works through. You want to meet someone then go outside and do something you like (or on the net). You like (gasp) Britney Spears, then join her paid fan club. I like DC (Destiny's Child for all you lamers out there) so I might meet someone who has my same attitudes on their paid fan site (I say paid because the unpaid ones tend to be full of kids who WRITE IN CAPS and WrItE LiKe ThIs)

I think so too. You can be as gay as you want to be, your still a guy lol. Most likely you will be guyish rather than girlish (I have known some girlish guys but their not always gay guys)

No matter how hard you try, you just can't get rid of that penis. It just sticks out (well... unless you go for the operation, but that's lame, you were born with a penis and testacies, you just happen to like other penis's and testacies... lol)

Maybe that is the problem??? I don't really know because I am not gay, but I did know a few people who were and the guys they were dating tended to act like guys; just with lighter voices and a sway in the hips.

Just my observation... I have no idea if it is really true.

dharmagrl

on Jun 03, 2005

Oh, and does anyone else find it a bit bizarre to see aeryk-the-super-christian giving relationship advice to a homosexual?

Yeah, I do. Tres wierd.

LW has some good advice, P. Do what you love, and surround yourself with people who love the same thing...and you'll find someone. What you're douing now is akin to my (if I were single) going up to some stange dude I'd never met before and saying "Hey! I'm white, straight, and of european descent, and so are you! How about we fall in love?".
Well, maybe not that simplified, but you get the idea.....

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